Conversation Guides

This guide provides structure for discipleship conversations between 2 people or in small groups. Start with the questions you feel are most relevant and listen to the other person and let God guide you through the conversation. These are just suggested questions.

Use these at the dinner table, with your kids when driving them to activities, when you meet with someone for lunch, or anywhere you gather with others for a more intentional growth conversation.

This exists because we believe discipleship happens in community. Therefore, we need to have intentional conversations to hear and encourage the faith journeys of others.

When using this guide, invite the other person into a discussion on the topic. Set shared goals for the conversation, such as to hear where each other is in their faith and to encourage further growth. Make sure they are willing to engage with you on the topic.

Identity Series (Jan-Feb 2024)

Who am I?

How would you answer if someone asked, "Who are you?"

-What are the most important things about yourself?

-In what ways do you feel the need to fit others' expectations for who you should be?

-How free and how strong do you feel in who you are today?

Who does God say you are?

-How is this different than what others expect you to be?

-How do you know God thinks this?

-How confident are you that God thinks this?

How does God want his love for you to change how you live?

-How might it change your thoughts about yourself?

-How might it change your confidence?

-How might it change your interactions with others?

Do you sense God wants you to grow in a particular area around this subject?

What if I'm not perfect?

Do you ever feel judged by God?

-In what ways?

-What do you think God feels about your failures and flaws?

How do you cope with the difference between who God wants you to be and who you are?

-Are you more likely to not worry about it because you know God loves and accepts you or be bothered by it because you want to be who God wants you to be?

-Which do you think God wants you to hear more right now: that he loves and accepts you as you are or that he wants you to be perfect as he is perfect? Why? (If you don't know, ask him in prayer and listen)

Are "walking" close enough to God that the Spirit is able to guide you?

-In what areas is God leading you to be more like him?

-Where have you seen fruit from God leading you in recent weeks/months?

Does anyone love me?

Where do you feel love in life?

-Do you feel you receive enough love?

-Where would you like to receive more?

-How would God evaluate your expectations for receiving love?

Do you feel God's love for you?

-Are you satisfied in God's love?

-Do you love God?

Where do you feel love in the church?

-How do you love others in the church?

Do you sense God wants you to receive his love more? (Ask him if unsure in prayer)

Do you sense God wants you to give his love more to others? (Ask him if unsure in prayer)

Do I belong?

Do you feel like you belong at church?

-Where do you fit in? What communities? What roles?

How are you different from others at church?

-How might that help others in their faith?

-How can you help others be confident to use their gifts in the church?

Where are you tempted to hide?

-What parts of your life do you want to prevent God from speaking into?

-How do you blend in at church?

-How can you help people feel safe to be open at church?

How does God want you to be involved in the church?

Am I significant?

What makes a life significant?

-What significance do you want your life to have?

How does your life reflect God's purpose in the world?

-In your everyday work?

-In your relationships?

What unique opportunities has God given you to do his work in the world?

-What skills, talents, and passions has he given you that you can use?

-What relationships has he given you?

-How do you best encourage others in their faith?

How is God leading you to live a significant life now?

What if things go wrong?

What things would you lean on to help you take next steps if your life flipped upside down?

-What things are the strongest to lean on and most trustworthy?

-Has God shown himself to you in times of turmoil?

-Has God shown himself to be trustworthy to you?

Does our future hope give you any encouragement to persevere in the present?

-How can you remain hopeful in times of doubt?

Can you see how the Spirit has lead you through difficulties?

-Have you seen God working for good in tough times in your life?

Are you going through any tough times lately? Is anyone else around you going through tough times?

-How is your/their hope and trust in God holding up?

-How can you/they be encouraged to trust in God?